April 14, 2013 9


By in Sex/Dating/Game

I have a confession. I’m not what I seem or what I might try to portray with the writings in this blog. I’m not the a single white male who’s bringing in the money and crushing pussy on the regular. Everything I post on here is true but I conveniently leave out details that would make me seem like less of a badass in the manosphere. I’ve decided to level with you however. It’s time to let it all hang out.

I guess you could call me a higher beta. In truth I share a house with my girlfriend and her teenage daughter. We’re both 30 so her child is obviously the result of a mistake she made in highschool. On a scale of 1 to 10 I would rate my girlfriend a 6 on most days. She can clean up to be about a 7.5 on a good day. Lately, having hit 30, she’s beginning to show visible signs of hitting that dreaded wall. She’s also become complacent and has started to gain weight. The manosphere is not a forgiving place and in situations like this, it’s recommended that I give her the boot. She’s a sweet girl however. She’s not entitled and not a nagging bitch. In fact we rarely if ever fight. We get each other.

When I’m at home, I’m somewhat of a family man. I pay the bills. I grill. I mow the lawn. I enjoy staying in and watching a movie or playing a board game. These are all things I either enjoy or don’t really mind doing because I care for my girlfriend.

Couple Cuddling

Other than physical appearance and the fact that I have to deal with the spawn of another man, our relationship is fine. I get sex on the regular and have someone to spend time with and share my thoughts. I’m not satisfied though. I live a double life.

Ever since discovering game, I’ve become addicted to the act of seducing women. There’s something intoxicating about meeting a woman for the first time and leading her by her emotions to the bedroom. There’s nothing like it. I’m live for the one night stand.

The thing that separates me from other higher beta’s is that I have no intention of marrying my live in girlfriend. I sometimes hope she just gets tired of waiting for that ring and decides to move on. I could just dump her. I’m too much of a bitch in that I can’t bear to break her heart like that. She knows that she’s past her prime. I’m her last hope of settling down with a good man. I can see it in her eyes.

How can I think about marriage? On a given night I have a reasonable chance of going home with a new conquest just by the simple act of approaching at the bar? The only thing better than pussy is some new pussy.

Hot Chicks at the Bar

I’m always looking forward to that next work trip that will take me out of town. There I’ll add some extra notches to my belt without the fear of getting found out. Occasionally I play with fire though and get it in too close to home. Is it really worth it to live in fear of getting outed? Is it worth to worry that one day she’ll find out and be even more heartbroken than if I just decided to break up with her?

These two very different lives are on a collision course. They’re bound to make contact and once they do, it won’t be pretty.

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March 14, 2013 0

You Can’t Unplug The Unwilling

By in Uncategorized

When I first started delving into the alternative blogosphere or more specifically the manosphere, it really wasn’t hard for me to unplug or swallow the red pill as they say. I had already began the slow and painful journey towards realization years before after my wife left me. Everything I was reading only confirmed the ugly truths I had experienced before.

The diversity and wealth of knowledge in this corner of the web can keep someone reading for hours. Soaking up advice about game, finances, entrepreneurship and going through analysis’ of the failings of modern society brought forth a natural urge to share. I wanted others to see the light as well. The problem is, not everyone wants to.

Given the controversial nature of some of the posts I came across, I only began sharing those I thought would offend people the least on Facebook. As fair and balanced or as rational as I thought these posts were, it didn’t stop the shrieking feminists and manginas on my friends list from spewing their indignation all over my wall. The responses ranged from calling the author of the post an idiot or misogynist to questing whether or not I was a rape apologist or supporter. I had friends who showed concern that I was even reading such material. Not a single argument I brought forth in defense of these articles was headed. It only brought more anger and boiler-plate responses about sexism and hatred.

Those friends that agreed with my posts were often too afraid to even comment. Instead they would message me privately to let me know that they were with me. It wasn’t until one friend of mine asked me why I even bothered. He let me know how he used to get into controversial conversations with friends at work or in social settings only to get blasted out by anger and ignorance. His new philosophy is “fuck ‘em.” If they don’t want to hear what he has to say, fine. He takes satisfaction in knowing that he sees and understands certain truths that others just don’t want to see.

I eventually took the same route. I post on this blog because I know that only those people who care to read it will read it and hopefully join in the discussion. I have a twitter account I use only for the manosphere. My Facebook is now only for keeping in contact with friends and sharing things that the general plugged in masses won’t flip their shit about. It’s better this way. No matter how much you want your friends to see and understand what you do, it just won’t happen unless they’re willing. Some might come around but most won’t.

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February 26, 2013 1

Step Up Your Internet Hustle Part II

By in Tech

In my previous post I listed some reasons for moving your blog or other web based projects to an unmanaged Virtual Private Server. For those who feel they have what it takes to make take the plunge and get their hands dirty, here are some tips for getting up and running. For this I will be using Linode a very popular hosting provider with a large community of users. One thing I like about Linode is it’s support. If you have any issues, you can post a support ticket online. They are usually very fast to respond and pretty helpful. They also have a library full of step-by-step tutorials on setting things up like webservers, databases etc. Another killer feature is what is called “StackScripts”. These are scripts written by users that allow for point and click install of popular server setups. If you’re impatient or don’t want to get your hands too dirty you might want to start out with one of these.

With a VPS you pretty much decide how you’re server is going to be setup and the possibilities are almost endless. So how do you go about moving to your VPS? For the sake of brevity, this article assumes a little more tech knowledge than your average blogger. You should also be familiar with the basics of navigation via the command line. Remember, Google is your friend.

1. Sign up for an account.

Once you have an account created you’ll want to decide what kind of server you want. The web runs on Linux/Unix so that’s what you’re going to be working with. For beginners I would recommend the latest version of Ubuntu. It’s been around for a while and the web is full of forums and howtos dealing with almost anything you want to do with it. Follow the instructions.

During your install you should have been prompted to choose a “root” password. “root” is the Linux equivalent of Admin. You have to power to change anything on your Linode with this account. It is recommended that you create a separate non-root user for day to day use as root has to potential to do great damage if you don’t know what you’re doing. Google it if you’re unsure how.

Once your Linode is created you’re going to want to install some sort of web server. Apache is the most popular these days. Nginx (pronounced engine X) is another popular one. WordPress runs well on what is called a LAMP stack which stands for Linux, Apache, MySQL, PHP. Check out the Linode Library for details on how to set that up.

2. Transfer your files.

Once you have a webserver setup you should be able to reach it by pointing your browser to the ip address Linode assigned to your VPS. Eventually you’ll want your domain name to point there but we’ll cover that later.

Most shared hosting providers provide Secure Shell or SSH access to user accounts. Ubuntu Linux is no different and provides SSH access right out of the box. SSH can also be used to transfer files securely. I recommend WinSCP for Windows users and Cyberduck for Mac users.

Point the software of your choice to your shared hosting account and download the files for your blog to your Desktop. After that point it at your Linode ip address and put those same files into your DOCUMENT_ROOT. This is normally “/var/www/htdocs” for Apache installs.

WordPress stores posts and other data in a MySQL database. You’re going to want to get all that stuff too. Log into your shared hosting account via SSH and on the command line type the following:

mysqldump -h <server> -u <username> -p <password> -c –add-drop-table –add-locks –all –quick –lock-tables <databasename> > sqldump.sql

Replace <server>, <username>, <password> and <databasename> with the appropriate info. If you don’t know it, your hosting provider should be able to assist you.

Use WinSCP or Cyberduck to download the sqldump.sql file that is created and then upload it to your VPS.

Log into your VPS via SSH and type the following:

mysql -u <username> -p <password> -h localhost <databasename> < sqldump.sql

Now your WordPress configuration needs to be updated. Go to your DOCUMENT_ROOT and find the file called wp-config.php. You can open it to edit by typing the following:

nano wp-config.php

Change the lines for DB_NAME, DB_USER and DB_PASSWORD to reflect what you setup when you installed the LAMP stack. DB_HOST should be “localhost” since the MySQL server is running on the same machine as your webserver.

Point your browser to the ip address assigned to your Linode and you’re site should look the same as it does on your old hosting provider’s server.

3. Move your domain name.

I recommend having your domain name registered to a company other than your actual hosting provider as this makes it easier to switch hosting in the future. If you bought your domain from someplace like domain.com or go-daddy.com you should be fine.

The first thing you’re going to want to do is go through your domain company and change your domain’s namservers to Linode’s nameservers. Ask your domain provider for help if you don’t know what this is. Linode’s nameservers ns1.lindode.com, ns2.linode.com etc. ns1 and ns2 should be enough but you can add up to ns5 if you like.

Login to your Linode account through their website and click on DNS manager. Click on add a domain. Enter your domain (without the www) and a contact email address. Make sure “Yes, insert a few records to get me started, using this IP” is selected. Click “Add Master Zone” and you’re done. Basically you’ve just made Linode the manager of your domain and all subdomains. You can change these settings later.

Your domain won’t point to your new server immediately it can take upwards of 24 hours for the change to propagate through the web. To check to see if it’s pointing to your new VPS open a command line in Windows and type:

nslookup <yourdomain>

Or in Mac or Linux:

host <yourdomain>

Replace <yourdomain> with yoru actual domain name. The ip listed should match the one assigned to your VPS by Linode.

4. Cancel your old hosting contract

If everything is working you can now get rid of your old provider.

Now that you have full control of your own server you can make other changes to it or even add a mail server. That’s beyond the scope of this article or even this blog but I encourage you to do the research and figure it out for yourself. Where you go after this is entirely up to you.

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February 23, 2013 1

Step Up Your Internet Hustle Part I

By in Tech
Server Racks

Your website lives here.


If you’re a regular blogger, by now you probably know how ridiculously easy it is to set up a professional looking website. All it takes is a cheap hosting provider, a professional domain name and free software like WordPress to start your own internet hustle.

There are a lot of great cheap hosting solutions out there. Most of these are what is called a shared hosting solution. Basically you share a physical server with other customers. This means that system resources and bandwidth are shared. If you happen to be on the same server as another high traffic site, you might find your own site suffering from poor performance. To minimize this, hosting providers usually put limits on disk space, memory usage and processing power for each user. You’re also limited to what kind of changes you can make to the system itself. This is fine if you have a low to medium traffic blog.

Say you want to add a certain plugin to your WordPress site but the server you’re on lacks the resources or the settings to run it? What if you have a coding background and decide to create the next great web app or service? You’re going to need a server where you are in control. You can get purchase a dedicated server but those are pretty expensive. That’s where Virtual Private Servers (VPS) come in.

A VPS is like a shared hosting server and a dedicated server combined. You still share a physical server with other customers. The difference is that the physical server runs virtualization software that allows multiple instances of various operating systems to run at the same time. System resources are then allocated to the virtual servers. A server with 16 quad core CPUs can be split into 16 different VPS each with their own dedicated CPU, memory, hard drive space, and network card with a private ip address. You get all the benefits of a dedicated server at a much lower cost and a slight performance decrease. That VPS is yours to tinker with as you please and it doesn’t effect the other users on the physical server.

Virtual Private Servers

VPS in nutshell

The only downside (I prefer to see it as a challenge) is that you are now responsible for managing your own server. Shared hosting providers are pretty good about settings things up in a way that works for a good majority of customers. They also add in great features like point and click installs of WordPress. If you don’t have a basic understanding of Linux/Unix type operating systems and you don’t like getting your hands dirty with the command line, then a VPS is not for you. For those who are ready to get down in the weeds, in part two I’ll go over some steps you’ll need to take to move your current site over to Linode, a highly rated VPS service.

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February 22, 2013 0

New Server

By in Tech

Just got everything moved over to my new Virtual Private Server (VPS). I’m currently using a Linode server to host this as well as some other web projects I’ve been working on. I’m somewhat of a web developer/coder and I’ve decided that I’ve outgrown my old shared hosting provider. Let me know if you notice any changes for the worst such as errors or slow load times so I can see about rectifying them. This has been kind of a learning experience for me so I expect that there might be some hiccups. When I get some time, I also plan on doing a post on how you can move over to a VPS if you desire.

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January 4, 2013 4

Approaching For Introverts

By in Sex/Dating/Game

If you do a Google search on seduction or pick-up advice you’ll end up with all sorts of methods, tricks or techniques for attracting and sexing up beautiful women. No matter what kind of magic bullets they provide, however, there is no getting around the dreaded approach. To eventually have sex with a beautiful woman you’ve never met, you need to approach her first, plain and simple.

Now there are many personality traits out there but for the sake of simplicity I’m only going to mention two general groups, introverts and extroverts. More specifically I’m going to deal with introverts.

Introverts are people who do not draw energy from social setting or from being the center of attention. In fact it’s somewhat draining for some introverts to be social at all. Being an introvert myself, I know how mentally taxing it can be sometimes to get out there an socialize. This can present a problem when getting laid depends on you approaching.

Approach anxiety is something everyone involved in pickup faces at some point or another. After approaching a lot and realizing rejection isn’t a huge deal, approach anxiety starts to become a non issue. For introverts though the problem comes from our tendency to over think things. “What do I say to her?” is a question that will come up frequently. “If I say this, it might sound weird.” or “What if she doesn’t get the humor I’m trying to convey in my opener?” are things that might pop into your head as well. From there you start getting lost in your thoughts and you’ve already psyched yourself out of that approach.

Overthinking the opener.

Overthinking the opener.

My solution is to keep it simple. Pick a line or two that you’re going to use for the night and stick to those. Roosh’s “You look like you’re having the most fun here.” is one of my favorites for it’s versatility. It works whether the girl is having fun or not.

If you want to keep it simple but a little more spontaneous, stick with situation dependent openers. If she’s wearing a skirt with an interesting pattern you may comment with “That is one crazy/outrageous/interesting skirt you’re wearing.”

The purpose of keeping it simple is to keep you from thinking too much. Thinking, in certain situations, can be an introvert’s worst enemy.

Now that you have an opener, how do you go about approaching? Again, introverts aren’t big on being the center of attention or making a scene. Going up to random groups of girls and inserting yourself into their conversation is enough to make most people anxious but introverts especially so. I prefer a more passive approach.

Roosh has a great post on what he calls sniper game. Basically it entails picking out a spot in the club. This spot is usually high-traffic like the bar area or near an entrance. The key is to be in a spot where women come into your vicinity often. When this happens, all you have to do is tap her on the shoulder and say your line. If it hooks, just run normal game, if not keep cool. You’ll another opportunity soon. I tend to like upscale bars, lounges or less crowded clubs for this reason. I can pick a spot and have dozens of opportunities to “approach” without having to move.

Wait for it...

Wait for it…

If that isn’t an option I sometimes hang out near the bar and wait for an attractive girl to get a drink. If possible I’ll saddle up next to her and drop my line over my shoulder.

This is my standard protocol when running game. It works for me because it fits my personality. It’s congruent and we all know that congruency can make all the difference in pick-up.

Do you consider yourself an introvert? Do you see this working for you? What methods do you use and how well do they work? Hit up the comments and let me know.

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December 23, 2012 0

No Fail Decision Making

By in Sex/Dating/Game

One sure sign of a strong confident man is his willingness and ability to make decisions. Unfortunately the majority of us are decision adverse. Women more so than men. Most of us has been in this situation. You and your girl are planning to go out on a dinner date. She asks where you are going and you say, “I dunno. Where do you wanna go?”. It goes back and forth until someone decides or maybe you don’t reach a decision and don’t go anywhere.

Successful Date

What’s the big deal with making decisions? Why do we have such an aversion to it? It all boils down to responsibility. Nobody wants to shoulder the blame for a bad or failed decision. It’s easier to let someone else decide and then harp on them later when it doesn’t pan out. What if you removed failure from the equation though?

Let’s take the dinner example. Say you’ve been seeing your girl for some time and you decide she’s cool enough to take out on a real dinner date.

You: “How about dinner tomorrow night?”

Her: “Sounds great. Where are we going?”

You: “That new Italian Place downtown.”

There should be no back and forth. Make the decision. Your girl will appreciate you not putting any extra stress on her. Her head is probably already in overdrive because this is your first real date.

This date can end up several ways. You can end up having a great meal which will set the tone for the rest of the date. The dinner can also end up being awful again affecting the date. Why let the success or failure of the date hinge on your dinner choice though? Why are you going on the date to begin with? Most likely you want to spend more time with this girl. You want to get to know each other better. You’ve probably already been intimate by this point so that’s not that big of an issue.

Let’s say the dinner tasted like dog shit, the service was slow or non existent and it was extremely overpriced.

Her: “My chicken parmesan tasted like cardboard. I can’t believe you picked this place.”

You: “Sorry. I had no idea. I suck at picking restaurants I guess.”

The night is probably headed downhill from there. Let’s try again from a different point of view.

Her: “My chicken parmesan tasted like cardboard. I can’t believe you picked this place.”

You: “Haha. You should have seen the look on your face after the first bite.”

Her: “That’s not funny!” (playfully slaps you on the wrist)

You: “My ravioli tasted funny as well. Hey did you see our waitress? Is she pregnant or does she have a really big beer gut?”

Her: “Haha. You’re horrible!” (more playful slapping)

You: “Let’s bounce and wash our mouths out with some drinks next door.”

The key here was not accepting dinner as a failure point. Sure it may have been a bad decision but by focusing on the good you’re able to save the date. You end up having a good time with your girl and creating a memory and a story you can recall later in the relationship.

Not all decisions can be completely devoid of failure but the majority the decisions we sweat day in and day out are meaningless in the grand scheme of things. The more you step up and make decisions the more you’ll see this.

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November 13, 2012 0

Borrowing Is Slavery

By in Money
Debt Slave

Debt Slave

This might seem like common sense to some but it’s largely ignored by those of us in wealthy Western nations like the United States. We live in an environment where there is plenty. Anything you need to survive and more can be purchased pretty easily. When it comes to buying things we need though, we don’t stop at just that. There are plenty of things we don’t need that we buy as well. This is a benefit of living in a capitalist society but it can also be a curse.

There is nothing inherently wrong with treating yourself to the newest gadget or a dinner out. Being able to enjoy such luxuries is what America is all about. The problem arises when we start trading our very freedom for such luxuries. Capitalism allows citizens to trade labor for wealth and wealth for goods. It’s a pretty good system. What happens when you don’t have the wealth to trade for something you want? Well there are wealthy people who have no problem lending their own wealth to help you get what you want…for a price.

One of the more obvious traps is the credit card. Credit cards make it super easy and convenient to purchase goods on someone else’s dime. Buy now pay later. You may ask, “What’s wrong with this as long as I pay it back on time?” Nothing as long as you pay it before interest is accrued. Once that happens though, you’ve made a slave of yourself. Your hard earned wealth is no longer yours. Like it or not, you are now working for the credit card company.

The same applies to a home mortgage. If you didn’t pay cash for the house you live in, you now work for the bank. Now I realize that taking out a mortgage is the only way most of us can purchase a house but realize the situation it places you in. It may or may not be a good deal. You can always live frugally and save up to buy a house with cash later. It just takes patience and discipline.

What about that new smartphone you really want? Off contract it goes for around $550. That’s pretty damn expensive. The nice folks over at Verizon have it for $199 though. Just sign up for 2 years of service and it’s yours. Now Verizon can expect to receive a check from you every month for 2 years. Awesome.

The beauty of America is that (for the most part) we get to chose who we give our money to and for what. The moment we borrow money from someone else we give up a little of that freedom to them. Whether it’s worth the trade or not is up to you. Before you purchase something think to yourself, “Do I really need this or can I wait?”

For Discussion:

I’m guilty of borrowing and buying things I don’t really need like the rest of us. What kind of things do you purchase that you could probably wait for and just not purchase at all?

Are you pretty well disciplined with your money? What techniques do you use to keep from making foolish purchases?

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October 25, 2012 6


By in Self Improvement

Space Jump

If you’re reading this blog or other masculine blogs like it, more than likely you’re interested in improving yourself. Whether it’s to be able to attract more women or just to be the manliest man you can be, you’ve probably embarked on one self improvement quest or another. Exercising to lose weight and get stronger or learning a foreign language are worthy endeavors but aren’t the easiest to stick with. In order to see the true benefits you must stick with it. The key to sticking with anything is momentum.

There was a 6 month period of time where I lost 40lbs of body fat and got pretty lean. I was in the greatest shape of my life. None of that happened all at once though. The weight barely trickled off at first. By the time I had hit the ten pound mark, however, the weight started dropping exponentially faster. I hadn’t changed up anything about my workout routine or diet. I just stuck with it. I had built up that momentum and it became easier to reach new milestones.

When I was learning Persian, I started off with the alphabet. The lines and squiggles were nonsense as far as I was concerned. On top of that I had to learn to read from right to left. Once I mastered that and got the basic vocabulary and grammar rules down I could start taking on more and more knowledge at a faster rate. Again positive forward momentum played a part in my success.

The problem with self improvement and achieving goals is that it’s very easy to reverse positive momentum. After achieving the best looking body I’ve ever had I went on vacation. I stopped working out and stopped caring about what I ate. It took about 2 months to reverse 6 months of progress. If I had only done something, anything to keep from slipping backwards I could have at least maintained and continued making progress after my vacation. One day of slacking will turn into two which will turn into a week. Forward momentum is halted and can start moving backwards.

If one day you just don’t feel like following through, instead of slacking off altogether, do something small.

If it’s a workout day and you just don’t feel like going to the gym or something has come up, do a few sets of bodyweight exercises before bed.

If you’re writing a book but don’t feel like writing today, jot down a paragraph or two.

No time for language study? Learn one new word or two.

The key is to do something rather than nothing. Sometimes it only takes a little push to keep that forward momentum. Sometimes the act of forcing yourself to do something small will propel you to do even more than you originally planned. One paragraph might turn into a page or two. Five new words might turn into ten.

Always be moving forward.

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October 20, 2012 1

Man Skills: BBQ

By in Cooking/Food, Man Skills

There’s nothing quite as manly as taking the carcass of a slain beast and cooking it over fire. The practice dates back to paleolithic times where men were depended on to bring back a fresh kill to feed the tribe or family. Once back at the cave, the man would once again demonstrate his power over the elements and create fire. Fire would provide much needed warmth and protection from the elements. Once raw meat was first placed over a fire, it opened up a whole new world of food preparation. The smoke and flame gave meat a whole new flavor and texture which humans still love today. Perfected and refined, BBQ is the modern day descendant of ancient cooking which most closely resembles its ancestor. Interestingly enough, it is still a practice dominated by men.

I believe all men should have a basic understanding of the basics of cooking but if you can’t find your way around a kitchen you should at least know how to find your way around a charcoal or wood grill. I don’t mean cooking prepackaged hotdogs or burgers either. I mean huge chunks of meat. Ribs, shoulders and legs.

To give you an idea of what kind of BBQ miracles can be called into being, I’m going to teach you how to make one of my favorites. Pulled pork.

It’s a great place to start when learning about smoking and BBQ. On the outside it seems like a pretty simple but it’s pretty time consuming so you want to dedicate an entire day (I prefer Sunday) and about 30 minutes the night before.

The Meat

First you’re going to want to get a nice sized (anyhwere from 6 – 16 lbs) fatty cut of pork shoulder. “Boston Butt” or “Picnic Cut” it really doesn’t matter as long as it’s nice and fatty. The fat is what’s going to help bring flavor as well as allow that meat to pull apart nicely when it’s done.

Dry Rub

Now you don’t necessarily need a dry rub. I like to do it because it enhances the flavor. You can buy a good dry rub from just about any store but I like to prepare my own. It’s pretty flavorful and paleo friendly as well.

  • 2 tablespoons smoked paprika
  • 2 tablespoons garlic powder
  • 2 tablespoons onion powder
  • 2 tablespoons sea salt
  • 1 tablespoon dry mustard
  • 1 tablespoon dry basil (crushed)
  • 1 teaspoons cayenne pepper
  • 1 teaspoon black pepper
  • 1 teaspoon cinnamon
  • 1 teaspoon nutmeg

After rubbing generous amounts all over the meat and really massaging it into the skin and flesh, you should place it in a baking dish, cover it with foil and place it in the refrigerator over night. The next day pull it out about an hour before you place it on the BBQ.

Pork Shoulder Prep

All rubbed down and ready to smoke.


Depending on your setup, you’re going to either use plain charcoal or wood. I personally use a Char-Griller Duo with an optional side fire box attached to the side. The key is to use indirect heat. If you don’t have a side fire box place the coals on one or two sides of the grill. The side box allows me to provide indirect heat and smoke pretty easily. If you use store bought charcoal, make sure it doesn’t come with some sort of lighting fluid already soaked in. It will mess with the flavor of the meat. Also buy some sort of woodchips for smoking. I use actual apple or cherry wood but you can get the same effect from soaking the chips in water overnight and placing them near the hot coals throughout the day.

You’re going to want to get your grill/smoker to about 215 degrees before you place your meat in there. You need to do your best to maintain this temperature the entire time you’re cooking. Most newer grills come with thermometers built in but you buy external thermometers for pretty cheap on Amazon. Don’t worry if the temperature fluctuates a little. As long as it stays anywhere from 200 to about 235 degrees, you should be fine. You’re probably gonna need anywhere from 9-15 hours to smoke the meat. A good rule of thumb to follow is 1-1 1/2 hours per pound of meat.

When you place the meat in the grill/smoker make sure the the fattiest portion is facing up. Over time the “fat cap” will start to melt into the rest of the meat, giving it that flavor and juiciness.

Some people like to place a tin full of water with water and apple juice next to the heat source to provide extra flavor to the smoke.

Another thing I do is take a spray bottle with a little water and apple-cider vinegar and spritz the meat every 3 hours to keep it moist.


Smoked Pork Shoulder

Smoked and ready to pull

Once the meat is finished smoking pull it from the smoker and let it sit for about 30 minutes. Then grab a fork and a knife and start pulling the meat apart. Don’t be afraid to use your hands if that’s easier. Be careful because the meat will probably still be pretty hot on the inside. Once the meat is all shredded, go ahead and mix with your favorite BBQ sauce and serve. Below is a recipe for some paleo friendly BBQ sauce that I use.

  • 1 1/2 cups of cooking juices from the ribs (or beef stock)
  • 3 cloves fresh garlic, finely diced
  • 6 oz can tomato paste
  • 1/4 cup apple cider vinegar
  • 1/4 cup prepared mustard
  • 2 tablespoons honey
  • 1 teaspoon onion powder
  • 1 teaspoon chili powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground cumin
  • 1/2 teaspoon sea salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon smoked paprika
  • 1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper
  • black pepper to taste
Pulled Pork

Ready for sauce

The more you smoke and bbq the easier it becomes. It’s a slow art form and the more you read about it and the more videos you watch, the more techniques you are going to want to try. Don’t be afraid to experiment and develop a style that’s uniquely your own.

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